30×30 Day 1

It’s a lot harder to come up with examples of active giving than of passive receiving. I think in part because “giving” is a term with a lot of meaning behind it.

I’m going to add a term to the mix: Agency. The idea of agency came up in the podcast as part of active vs. passive. Thinking about my day in terms of times I acted with agency gives me a much better rubric for evaluation.

With agency in mind, coming up with today’s contribution was easy:

Today I walked to the Caltrain station with my coworker. When I got there, I had a choice of trains to take, as well as a choice of places to sit. Despite the usual socially awkward commentary in my head of, “What if my coworker had intended to do something else on the train and doesn’t want to chat with me?” and, “What if we run out of things to talk about?” I asked if it was okay to sit together, because I decided getting to know my colleague better is more important than my awkwardness.

Reading the above, I realize how foreign the commentary in my head may sound to a people person. I also realize I’m not alone, that I have colleagues far more awkward or anxious than I am about social situations, and I wonder what I can do to make it easier for them to connect.

This 30 Days is great. One day in and I want to do more for others already.

30×30 Begin!

It’s been almost 3 years since my last novel 30 Days project. I’ve been busy with other, longer running projects. I still have those, but recently I’ve found myself yearning to do a 30 Days.

Serendipity! On my way to go mountain biking this morning I listened to this podcast: Savvy Psychologist: How to Fix Dissatisfaction at Work

About halfway through the podcast, they touched upon gratitude. You may recall I did a month on gratitude in 30×7. I loved it.

To my surprise, they talked about how gratitude wasn’t enough.

“As much as it can boost your happiness to be grateful, when it comes to motivation, gratitude is often a passive emotion.”

“You don’t want to be a passive receiver. You want to be an active giver.”

This was accompanied by two examples: a contribution journal, and turning a dinnertime “What are the things that you’re grateful for?” into “What’s something you did this week that helped somebody else?”

I was sold. This is happening. Every day I will post something I contributed. It can be big, small, tiny, miniscule. What matters is that I contributed to making the world better, one person, moment, day at a time.

Hold me to it.

See you tomorrow.