Listen like a sponge. Don’t speak, just listen.
I haven’t written about an Adventure in over two months. I stalled on this one. It was hard. I’d remember to do it, but then forget when in conversation. Because how often do you find yourself in a conversation that doesn’t expect a response? Certainly not at work. I feel this works best when you’re in a one-on-one conversation with a friend, but not a group of friends, because in a group setting not talking often relegates you to outside observer.
But even in a one-on-one setting, most conversations expect contribution from both parties.
I did find myself in a few qualifying conversations over the course of this exercise. Conversations in which there is no right answer, no expectation of a response. Conversations in which I could just listen.
And when I did, I heard more than words. I heard emotion, pain, hope, fear, sincerity, compassion.
When I think about this, I realize that sometimes when we want someone to talk to, what we really need is someone to listen.
Perhaps with this realization I’ll find it easier to remember to just listen.
Elephant Adventure 39: Appreciation